What 2018 Taught Me

Hello everyone! I know it’s been a while since you’ve heard from me…. but I had to take some time off to rebrand, reprioritize, and reset. I’m so excited to get back in the swing of things and plan out fun and exciting content. In honor of 2019 being off to a great start, I began reflecting on 2018. I know everyone is hyper-focused on their 2019 resolutions, but I think it’s so important to look back and see how far you’ve come over the last year. The “never look back philosophy” has never boded well with me – I’ve always been reminiscent of both the good and bad days, how I got through them, and what they taught me. Having these memories in writing helps me understand how to move forward, and I’m so happy to have this kind of outlet.

Happiness

2018 taught me that it was okay to be selfish with my happiness. It taught me that self-care is more than what it’s played out to be on the many internet memes that we see on a daily basis – it’s taking the time to distance yourself from anything that brings you negativity. This includes places, people, and even your own thoughts. I learned that finding happiness in small things is what life is worth living for. I found happiness in making peanut butter pancakes in the morning, finding new coffee shops to fall in love with, workouts that help me escape the world everyday, making new friends with the same mindset, and chasing what I truly love to do.

Determination

2018 taught me that I am striving to compete with myself on a daily basis. It taught me that I have the perseverance to keep going and survive whatever is thrown at me. Determination is the only trait that is going to get me where I want to be, whether that is a professional goal, a physical goal, or a self-improvement goal. I set weekly goals for myself that I made sure I could meet and this has helped me tremendously. Climbing a small mountain every day is better than having to climb Mt. Everest without any experience.

Gratitude

2018 taught me that gratitude can be found even in the most unlikely lessons. Lately, I’ve begun to turn around my thoughts if I feel them shifting to something negative about a situation. I tell myself I’m thankful for the outcome, because it has led me to this point in my life. At this point in my life, I’m happy with who I am. I’m happy with who I’ve chosen to surround myself with because these people will ultimately be the ones who impact me most. I’m happy I know exactly where I’m going, and it’s going to be incredible.

Adventure

2018 taught me to say yes. Say yes to the adventures, say yes to opportunities, and say yes to what I fear the most. I learned that there are risks with everything that is worth having, and I want to be strong enough to take those risks. I had incredible vacations that I never thought I’d go on – I started 2018 with my best friend in LA, spent my birthday in Miami, and went to Chicago for the second time just because I love it so much. I found little adventures in Atlanta that made me love this city even more. Sometimes the real adventure is right in front of you.

Adulting

2018 taught me that turning 23 would hit me with a check. A reality check. All of a sudden, I wasn’t 15 anymore – I had real expenses, real bills, and real….. grocery shopping? I think I hit up grocery stores every couple days because I forget what I should have gotten earlier. It’s a never ending cycle of swiping a credit card somewhere and either feeling regret, relief, or excitement. After graduating, I missed college for so long just because studying was something I knew how to do well, and then I was thrown into the deep end. 2018 taught me that this is exactly what adulting is – learning how to get out of the deep end every single day, until you get it just right.

In the end, 2018 was a great year, and I’m so blessed to be where I am today.

I want to end this post with one of my favorite quotes by my favorite artist of all time.

“There’s beauty in the struggle, ugliness in success.” – J. Cole

Love Yourz,

Alisha