I know it’s been a while. I’ve been all over the place the past three months, what with a global pandemic and all. But, I’ve been working on some really fun content and I got really into Tiktok (yes, I said I wouldn’t but I caved and I don’t regret it at all).
I also recently turned 25 YEARS OLD. It’s definitely the scary age, because you’re not in your “early 20’s” anymore. You’re an official adult, you can start renting cars, and people stop cutting you slack for things. But it also means that you’ve been through a rollercoaster ride for the past 25 years, and you’ve learned a good amount. I think. To be honest, I’m 100% sure that I’m not sure about anything, so take this post with a grain of salt.
1. Nothing that’s worth it is ever easy
This is something I’ve always learned over and over, but it’s true. If there’s something you truly want, there are always going to be obstacles and challenges on that road. The whole point is to get past them and emerge stronger than ever before.
2. Sometimes you have to do what you need to so that you can do what you want to later
I know a lot of people feel this way. I’ll admit being in a 9-5 job scenario is not something I see myself doing for that much longer, but right now, it’s a resting place. I have so many goals to achieve that this is just another step on the ladder.
3. Writing down all your experiences really helps you see who you are as a person
Ever since I was little, I’ve always kept journals. I truly documented my life since I was 8, and it was the best decision I ever made. If you don’t own a journal but are interested in writing, I highly encourage it. You get to see how you’ve changed over time and how you became who you are now. Social media won’t do the same.
4. Work hard, rest hard
When you’re a hard worker in any aspect of your life, you know the burn out is real. Whether you work hard at your job, your family, your side hustles, or fitness, your body will crave those rest days. I’m 100% in support of taking time to decompress and do nothing. My favorite guilty pleasure on my rest days? Binging The Real Housewives.
5. Get out of your comfort zone
This one is an obvious one but it’s one I’m still working on. It’s never easy to do things you’re afraid of, but once you surpass it, and you keep doing it, it gets easier and easier. I’m honestly really afraid of flying, but whenever an opportunity comes to get out of Atlanta and go somewhere else, I never say no. I know that what lies beyond my fear is fun, laughter, and adventure.
6. You get what you give…. sometimes
I’ve always been a big believer in reciprocation. I USED to think that you always get what you give. If you’re nice to someone, they’ll be nice to you. Or if you support someone through tough times, they’ll be there for you too. Oh, was I wrong. Sometimes, you really do get what you give. But no one is obligated to do something for you just because you did the same for them. And that’s life.
7. Make your room your sanctuary
Your room is the place that you’re in ALL the time. The place that you’re in all the time can directly affect the way you think and your mood. I firmly believe in making your room and your home your own sanctuary. Light candles, have soft colors everywhere, hang up frames that make you smile. Your home should radiate positivity because this is something that will directly affect YOU.
8. Who you were in the past does not define who you are now
As human beings, we’re literally created to change every single day. If you were a certain type of person in college, and then you learned new information as you got older and changed, that is normal. If you acted a certain way before and you realized the error of your ways, that’s growth. If you’ve stayed the same for the past 20 or so years, you’re doing something wrong.
9. Consistency is key
I post a lot about fitness because it’s become one of my passions over the past few years. My friends always tend to ask me how I got my results. And I always have one answer for them – consistency in all aspects of your life. Set a workout schedule every single week and stick to it. Set a meal plan for the week and stick to it. Plan out your cheat meals and stick to those. You can’t expect results without doing the work.
10. Eat your vitamins
I know our parents gave us those gummy bear vitamins to eat as kids and they were SO good…. but I truly didn’t understand the importance of taking different vitamins until recently. Having a vitamin deficiency can directly impact how you feel and behave, so it’s important to keep that in check.
11. Be humble but stay proud
We all have accomplishments in our lives that we’re proud of. I love seeing people post about their milestones and accomplishments on social media, because I always think about how hard they must’ve worked to get there. Over the past few years, I’ve learned that it’s important to be humble in your accomplishments but also staying proud of yourself and knowing that you did the work to get there. There’s a fine line between arrogance and confidence.
12. Change your perspective
For the past three months, we’ve been in quarantine due to coronavirus. And throughout this time, I’ve seen SO much negativity on social media, it’s just spewing out. I was scared in the beginning too, but then I realized that I’ve been given the gift of time. I finally have time at home to pursue the things I kept on hold, and honestly, I’m thriving. It’s all about your thought process. If you think you’re stuck at home, that’s how you always will be. Start a blog, start a business… there are so many possibilities.
13. People won’t always like you, and that’s okay
I’ve realized that when you’re unapologetic in your hustle, people tend to be negative towards you. That’s okay, because that’s not your problem. Keep going in your positive journey.
14. Changing your hair does change your mood, and that’s a fact
I completely support changing your hair style to change your mood, and that’s about it. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
15. It’s okay to let friendships die
This was a toughie. Do you ever find yourself wanting to keep a friendship alive but you realize that they will never reciprocate (see #6)? I have many acquaintances, but I can count on ONE hand how many real friends I have. I show up for them and they show up for me. And you can’t have low standards, even when it comes to friendships.
16. Road trips with good music are good for the soul
If you can’t sing “I Want it That Way” and “Bye Bye Bye” and “Beautiful Soul” with me, we can’t be friends.
17. You can be attached to a place
I have so many places that I call my second home, because they represented something special to me. I made so many good memories in these places, that they will always have a space in my heart.
18. Don’t commit to something if you can’t do it
This is something I had to learn over and over till I finally just realized, it’s okay to say no. If you have too much going on, stop adding more to your plate! I’d rather do something right than in a rushed state.
19. Support your friends
Do you ever see your friends working hard at something? Think about how you really show up for them. Do you support them silently? Do you help them gain more exposure with your followers on social media? Do you tell them you’re proud? Something to think about. If I know one of my close friends is working hard to accomplish something, I always try to do what I can to help. If they have a business or blog, I try to reshare it to my followers. The smallest gestures make the biggest difference sometimes.
20. Make time for things you used to love
Another thing I do appreciate about this quarantine is that I have time to READ. Remember reading? I used to read an entire book in a day because I’d be so engrossed in it. Getting lost in a good book is so therapeutic.
21. Bake when stressed
Speaking of therapeutic, baking will really help whenever you’re overwhelmed or stressed. My favorite thing is to bake my signature almond flour chocolate chip cookies whenever the sunday scaries hit, and they melt all my worries away.
22. Do what is necessary for your mental health
If you need a break, take one. Take days off from work just because. Go on a walk and listen to your favorite sounds. Put your phone on do not disturb – the world will be there when you get back.
23. Take social media breaks
This kind of ties into #22, but this is SO important. The past month or so I’ve felt so overwhelmed with everything going on on social media. And while those issues are important, I felt like there was a lot of negativity going around as well. I ended up deleting twitter for about a week, and I noticed how much better I felt. It’s unhealthy to constantly take in traumatic information. Please unplug and do what’s necessary for your health.
24. “Turbulence is here to stay” – Indra Nooyi
This is one of my favorite quotes – so much so that it was my phone wallpaper at one point. This is close to my heart because I absolutely hate turbulence on planes. I get so much anxiety because you don’t know when it’s going to happen or what’s going to come out of it. This is a perfect metaphor for life – things could be going smooth and you could get hit with turbulence. But… it’s usually always going to end up fine.
25. I’m 100% sure that I’m not sure of anything
I don’t have everything figured out. I used to think that being 25 meant I would be this perfect responsible adult who knew how to cook because that’s what was ingrained into my brain as a child of an Indian family. But instead, I’m following my dreams, building in silence, and making mistakes along the way. And guess what? Mistakes are okay. Falling down is okay. And if you take a while to get back up, that’s okay too. No one said your 20’s were easy, but I’m excited for the adventure ahead.
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